In the land of Pagodas - Part II

"We will be landing shortly in Hong Kong." I heard as I woke up suddenly from my sleep. I still don't know what or who had waken me up. I pushed my seat back and sat in the seat. According to the instructions, I drew up the window blinds. The sight I saw as I looked down cannot be explained in words!!! It was like heaven! White sunlight streaming down to blue waters which gleamed silver.
And there were islands, mountains and clouds!!! I could barely believe what I was seeing!

We were nearing Hong Kong. "The local time is 8am." I looked at my watch. It was 5.30 on it!! "Oh the time zone has changed" I thought. I had slept only for 5 hours! I adjusted my watch to match the local timing. Suddenly I skipped two and a half hours!

 The flight landed at the Hong Kong airport. It is a beautiful airport, with the ocean around it. :)
We got out of the flight and started. Again those long walks in the airport. And I saw the sign for passengers with boarding passes asking them to go one way. But we didn't have boarding passes. That meant we had to check in.

Somebody told (I actually don't remember the correct sequence of events now!!) that we have to take the train to go out! Train? In the airport!! At first we all got confused. Now all I remember well is this. We walked upto somewhere and one of us parted to inquire something and disappeared in the crowd! Three of us went ahead and found another inquiry counter. There started our tryst with "no English" or different English! I went up to a counter and told her that I couldn't find our companion. She didn't understand anything at first because I spoke too fast for her (nobody can be blamed because I myself have my Indian accent!) and then I had to repeat three to four time, by the times she had started looking frustrated. Luckily for us, our companion appeared out of nowhere (love you DJ :) ) and we started the inquiry for the immigration. Another official helped us find the forms and directed though there was barely any language spoken! :) But all the people were helpful. :) And we found the counter and got the temporary sanction to get out the airport to collect our luggage and check back in!

I think we caught the train after that. We went and took the subway (beginning of the subway story :) ) to the terminal and found staff who directed us to baggage belts. We found our luggage went to Terminal 1. In between I had seen a board saying "to ferries". A slight wish to travel in a ferry crossed my mind.

Then at terminal 1 we went in for check in. Till then Palam had been big. Hong Kong was bigger now! :) For the first time, I switched my mobile on! There was range! Hail Airtel! I sent a message home. :)
we checked in and got the boarding passes and went in for the security check. I had lots of water with me which was not allowed inside. So so as not to get my bottle thrown away I made everybody drink all of it!! :D  We got confused at the queue  where to enter! DJ's poster holder was found to exceed the allowed size! So both Dj and my comrade went to check it in the over sized luggage. After all these we entered the queue. Everything had to be put in; as usual; now people were putting belts too!!! So I had to remove the belt!!! I wanted to clarify something with somebody and asked an elderly man in the queue. He said "no English" and smiled! :) Finally we got checked in and all and went to search for the gates and obviously a wash room! :) We had plenty of time since out flight was only in the afternoon.

Finally we found our gates and refreshed and started our wait. We all switched on our wi-fis. :) Free wi-fi in airport! Aha! What a relief! After all we were not cut off from the rest of the world! And obviously everybody started to send messages and mails on fb and gmail. :) The wait continued till our flight was announced. While waiting we took photos. The view from there is beautiful. If this was so beautiful one can imagine how beautiful Hong King is! And I saw a photo ( I don't remember if it was the ad of a camera) which made me feel again that it is heaven!!! :)
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We boarded the flight. The meal time arrived and the "vegetarian meal" which was pre-booked came! Here started the tryst with "no fish, no egg, no meat" (ofcourse I have no problem with egg and fish, but for my friends). There were some suspiciously meaty looking stuff which was told as tofu but my friend didn't believe. And there were spinach and shrimp (shrimp :) ) too. And I kept all the suspicious stuff away and ate the rest of the food (i.e rice and vegetables) since I was hungry.

I tried to get some sleep, but couldn't sleep. My mind was pre-occupied with all the forms those had to be filled, for the air hostess had distributed the forms. Somehow I tried to fill them. Forms make me nervous for some reason!

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We were landing. And I saw the city of Beijing beneath! :) Everything neatly arranged in rows. :) And then we landed. (Somehow I feel that Beijing airport is designed like a dragon .) And again the run for immigration and stuff. We waited patiently until all our formalities were finished and went out. The impression the airport leaves on you  is "awesome"! Now Hong Kong airport seemed to be smaller. Here again we had to take the train to go out. So we started with our train journey which seemed quite long. Then we arrived at the exit point and went out to get the luggage. There were some 100 belts (I actually again don't remember the exact number)! And finally we found our belt and waited. I saw cute suitcases with flowery prints and bright colors. After waiting for sometime our colorless luggage came and we collected them. (This is when we cursed ourselves for buying all those books!)  Next we had to get Yuan. We went to the forex and got the money converted!  I looked at Yuan. It looked very strange to me. Whenever I had seen a foreign currency back in India I had looked at it with curiosity. Now as the "owner" of some amount in a foreign currency felt a bit strange!!! I had rupees with me along with some dollars too. The whole concept of money seemed very weird at the moment, because Yuan would be the only valid thing for me until I stayed, no matter how many other currencies I had with me.

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We came out after another round of confirmation security and I spotted the student with "INSS" notice waiting in the crowd of "receivers" to pick us up. We went with him and we were asked to wait sometime. Then we met another student who was in charge of receiving students and we all started teaching each other our names. While waiting, more people arrived, we started talking and getting acquainted with one another.  Now we should keep in mind the second student who met us. He was to become my tutorial partner later. :D So finally we had to get out of the terminal. So we took the lift since there were so many people in the group and even more luggage! First we went to a floor waited there and then realized that we had to go to another floor. But then there too we had to go back to the second floor where we had been waiting initially. We climbed up and down some 4 times in the lift and by the end of it, I was on the verge of laughing. :D  It was so funny (imagine a bunch of people going up and down with all their luggage and so on and still not being able to figure out where to go ultimately! :D ) Finally we understood where we should be heading to and the person who had to pick us up all, came along and guided us to another lift far away out from this terminal. :) I remember that it was a long walk and we ended up in a basement. It was not a mere basement! It was a huge basement for parking vehicles! It reminded me of all the other language movies I used to watch in our university film festivals. Suddenly I felt that I was in one such movie. It also reminded me of thriller movies!!! (Somehow basements and empty railway stations remind me of thrillers (consequence of watching too many movies!! :) )). I even considered the prospect of shooting a thriller movie there. ;)

Finally we dumped all our luggage in the cars and got in. My comrade and I got into one and the other two in another. I got the front seat! And I was sitting on the right with the driver's seat on the left! :) Again it felt a bit weird. :) And we started our journey. We got out of the airport and started our journey to the resort where the school was to be held. All the highways were impressive. And clean. I tried to enjoy the scenic beauty but sleep was slowly catching up. At one point when we were about to take a wrong turn, the person who was driving, used the gps to find the way. We reached the resort pretty soon. :)

 Then we registered and got instructions and room keys and all. I was so tired and my head had started pounding. I could barely see anything. All I wanted to do was to bathe and sleep. I wasn't even hungry anymore. After reaching our room which my comrade and I shared, I took bath and slumped onto the cozy bed. I didn't wanted dinner. All I wanted was sleep. I still couldn't believe I was in China. It all felt surreal. And with the surreal feeling hovering in my mind, I slept a dreamless sleep.
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In the land of pagodas - Part 1

Another experience is pending. But this one was so exciting that I can't contain it anymore and feel like I should share it.

Plainly speaking this is about my visit to China. :) But in not so plain words it is about my first journey out of my country; from Asia to Asia ; to the magnificent land of the scarlet silk. 

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 The journey was for academic purpose, to attend the school on the particle being searched and studied by people all over the world, of which I too am a part of! And then came the conference which was a sweet twist in the tale. :) 

 Keeping the record of my name disappearing from any list in any of the schools or conferences, I was expecting nothing when I suddenly got a letter from the organizers that I am selected to attend the school! Then started all the paper works and stuff which commenced exactly on my birthday and ended (only a part of it) on July 31st with the coming of my visa. To have the visa application with you for 2 weeks and to have the feeling that nothing is happening and not being able to send it because something or the other comes up, is a bit too much! And the visa comes on a day with only four days left till the commencement of the supposed journey!!! 

Thus the person who always do "systematic packing" and panicking even for a domestic travel started packing her stuff on the eve of her first international travel!! I wonder what would have been my state had my friend not helped me with all my packing. :)  How can I ever forget the last minute rushes done on the Saturday called 3rd August, including printing a poster and buying a holder for it which I would never have done otherwise!

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Somebody had told me to bring somethings the moment he heard that I was going to China. He needed things which made weird sounds!! This has to be kept in mind for further reading.

I started from here, my friend made me breakfast and my parents came to see me off at the airport after picking up my comrade for the journey from her flat. At the airport, we took the Chennai Delhi flight, to reach there by 13.30 and sit in the airport for the rest of the time.

The aircraft was luxurious for a domestic flight!!! And what more I got to watch the movie  which I had been longing to watch for a long time! 

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We reached Delhi airport by 13.30.  Now immigration had to be done. My comrade and I went up to the counter and found out that it could be done atmost three hours before the journey. "Now what" was the question. We thought about many options. And decided that we would stay inside the airport (there begins the parallel saga of airports!) So we started the old hobby! Shopping!! But before that we had to eat something.What to eat? We saw a South Indian Restaurant "Vaango"! We thought about eating dosa then decided against it and had some coffee and snacks instead. 

Finally shopping had to be done. We went to the sole book store we found and started searching. Searching, searching, searching...... We bought books too. Who imagined that we would later curse these and the other books we had carried greedily hoping to "finish reading" while travelling! 

Then we went to the visitors launch and sat there. It is exactly like we are refugees. But only high class refugees sitting in less crowded, neat airports. There we found a girl. She was looking at us, we looked at her. On one look itself it became evident that she was a Malayali and the other look told me that she was from Kottayam!!! :) She came to us and talked. Everything was right. She was flying to Canada and she was a nurse (one of the looks had told me that too). 

Then we waited again, for our flight to Hong Kong was only at 11.30 pm. Our other two friends were to come with us, the four of us travelling together. At around 5.30 DJ called and said that she would come by 8pm or so. We waited for her and she arrived with life saving cakes for us. :) We checked in, sent our luggage and entered the real Terminal 3(oh! haan I forgot the poster holder was there always and it was as if it was a fellow passenger in this whole journey)! I was overwhelmed!!! I had already been overwhelmed by the capital airport on arrival there! Various "mudras" are sculptured there. I couldn't figure out the meaning of it and missed taking a photo of it. 

The check in counters themselves were overwhelming with all the beautiful decorations and lighting. All the shops in Terminal 3 are also overwhelming. :) We went to the food court and had dinner and waited for our other friend. He was to come from Mumbai to Delhi. Again waiting. And roaming around in search of a footwear shop to get a shoe. 

The story of the shoe is like this. I had a slipper which I doubted would break down on trekking since it was known that we would be going to the Great Wall. Having no light shoes, I wanted to get one and forgot about it in the last second rush. So I though that I would get one somewhere on the way and all the "somewheres on the way" were airports and hence the search for the shop! Surprisingly I couldn't find a footwear shop in the international terminal!!! (There are quite a few in the domestic, but not even a single one in the IT!) Every other kinds of things are there! Including a mannequin wearing a beautiful gown made of newspapers (not for sale)!!!

We found a beautiful shop. The thing which attracted us to it was a man (boy/Krishna may be) carved beautifully out of wood and dressed up nicely too. The decorations in the shop were all tricoloured for Independence day was approaching. We roamed around from one shop to the other and so on to come back and wait again for our flight.

And thus came the call for our flight. Our friend from Mumbai was nowhere to be seen. Had he come or not? We went to board the flight. Luckily he had reached in time. All the three girls' ticket were upgraded to business class for some reason!!! And the class reminded of the travel in Duranto. ;) Pampering with food!!! (Duranto was a bit too much!!! :D)  

Before we took off I had  recommended everybody I phoned, to come to Palam airport atleast once. :)   

We ate dinner, I pulled the seat flat and lay down and slept. The day was very tiring and without rest. 

Thus began my first journey abroad.

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In the land of pagodas - Part 1

Another experience is pending. But this one was so exciting that I can't contain it anymore and feel like I should share it.

Plainly speaking this is about my visit to China. :) But in not so plain words it is about my first journey out of my country; from Asia to Asia ; to the magnificent land of the scarlet silk. 

********************************************************************************

 The journey was for academic purpose, to attend the school on the particle being searched and studied by people all over the world, of which I too am a part of! And then came the conference which was a sweet twist in the tale. :) 

 Keeping the record of my name disappearing from any list in any of the schools or conferences, I was expecting nothing when I suddenly got a letter from the organizers that I am selected to attend the school! Then started all the paper works and stuff which commenced exactly on my birthday and ended (only a part of it) on July 31st with the coming of my visa. To have the visa application with you for 2 weeks and to have the feeling that nothing is happening and not being able to send it because something or the other comes up, is a bit too much! And the visa comes on a day with only four days left till the commencement of the supposed journey!!! 

Thus the person who always do "systematic packing" and panicking even for a domestic travel started packing her stuff on the eve of her first international travel!! I wonder what would have been my state had my friend not helped me with all my packing. :)  How can I ever forget the last minute rushes done on the Saturday called 3rd August, including printing a poster and buying a holder for it which I would never have done otherwise!

*********************************************************************************

Somebody had told me to bring somethings the moment he heard that I was going to China. He needed things which made weird sounds!! This has to be kept in mind for further reading.

I started from here, my friend made me breakfast and my parents came to see me off at the airport after picking up my comrade for the journey from her flat. At the airport, we took the Chennai Delhi flight, to reach there by 13.30 and sit in the airport for the rest of the time.

The aircraft was luxurious for a domestic flight!!! And what more I got to watch the movie  which I had been longing to watch for a long time! 

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We reached Delhi airport by 13.30.  Now immigration had to be done. My comrade and I went up to the counter and found out that it could be done atmost three hours before the journey. "Now what" was the question. We thought about many options. And decided that we would stay inside the airport (there begins the parallel saga of airports!) So we started the old hobby! Shopping!! But before that we had to eat something.What to eat? We saw a South Indian Restaurant "Vaango"! We thought about eating dosa then decided against it and had some coffee and snacks instead. 

Finally shopping had to be done. We went to the sole book store we found and started searching. Searching, searching, searching...... We bought books too. Who imagined that we would later curse these and the other books we had carried greedily hoping to "finish reading" while travelling! 

Then we went to the visitors launch and sat there. It is exactly like we are refugees. But only high class refugees sitting in less crowded, neat airports. There we found a girl. She was looking at us, we looked at her. On one look itself it became evident that she was a Malayali and the other look told me that she was from Kottayam!!! :) She came to us and talked. Everything was right. She was flying to Canada and she was a nurse (one of the looks had told me that too). 

Then we waited again, for our flight to Hong Kong was only at 11.30 pm. Our other two friends were to come with us, the four of us travelling together. At around 5.30 DJ called and said that she would come by 8pm or so. We waited for her and she arrived with life saving cakes for us. :) We checked in, sent our luggage and entered the real Terminal 3(oh! haan I forgot the poster holder was there always and it was as if it was a fellow passenger in this whole journey)! I was overwhelmed!!! I had already been overwhelmed by the capital airport on arrival there! Various "mudras" are sculptured there. I couldn't figure out the meaning of it and missed taking a photo of it. 

The check in counters themselves were overwhelming with all the beautiful decorations and lighting. All the shops in Terminal 3 are also overwhelming. :) We went to the food court and had dinner and waited for our other friend. He was to come from Mumbai to Delhi. Again waiting. And roaming around in search of a footwear shop to get a shoe. 

The story of the shoe is like this. I had a slipper which I doubted would break down on trekking since it was known that we would be going to the Great Wall. Having no light shoes, I wanted to get one and forgot about it in the last second rush. So I though that I would get one somewhere on the way and all the "somewheres on the way" were airports and hence the search for the shop! Surprisingly I couldn't find a footwear shop in the international terminal!!! (There are quite a few in the domestic, but not even a single one in the IT!) Every other kinds of things are there! Including a mannequin wearing a beautiful gown made of newspapers (not for sale)!!!

We found a beautiful shop. The thing which attracted us to it was a man (boy/Krishna may be) carved beautifully out of wood and dressed up nicely too. The decorations in the shop were all tricoloured for Independence day was approaching. We roamed around from one shop to the other and so on to come back and wait again for our flight.

And thus came the call for our flight. Our friend from Mumbai was nowhere to be seen. Had he come or not? We went to board the flight. Luckily he had reached in time. All the three girls' ticket were upgraded to business class for some reason!!! And the class reminded of the travel in Duranto. ;) Pampering with food!!! (Duranto was a bit too much!!! :D)  

Before we took off I had  recommended everybody I phoned, to come to Palam airport atleast once. :)   

We ate dinner, I pulled the seat flat and lay down and slept. The day was very tiring and without rest. 

Thus began my first journey abroad.

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Nameless

Those grey eyes in which I got lost...
So deep yet so calm...
Oh nameless!
How can I tell you
That I want to gaze at them forever?

Why did I ever gaze into them;
And waded into their deepness;
To get lost and forget myself
And everything else?

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Everything seems distant now.
The sweet silence between us,
In which we spoke with gazes,
By looking in and looking away
The language of the eyes...

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Then I woke up and realised,
It was all a dream...
A very sweet dream...
And nothing else.

Deep greyness had vanished...
Dark emptiness stared back.
There were no grey eyes;
And a nameless face....
They had all gone too far away,
To come back; but they were never there,
Except in a sweet virtual reality.

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Oh! Nameless, who are you?
Where did you come from?
Where did you vanish to?
Are you real or a mere dream?

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x-( x-( x-( x-( - Part 3

In the last post I wrote about how we need to control the contents on internet which are being misused. Today I'll write about why people misuse the internet or even without internet why women are being abused.

      Yes. The root of the problem is in the society. The society is biased in such a way that women are always supposed to be objects , precious or not and not as humans who breathe eat or walk. The very idea of considering woman as precious is as dangerous as considering her as lowly as to treat her like a slave. Whatever a woman is considered, it is slavery only. Everywhere, women are considered as slaves. A slave who won't stand up for herself or if she does at all, the evil male dominated society will suppress her by any means.

      This kind of attitude is reflected everywhere. Not only in rapes. Rape is the extreme case where a deluded useless male tries to impose his dominance over any female he sees. Just because you were brought up under the delusion that you are male so you can do anything as you please doesn't acquit you from being a criminal of law and an evil person. In one way or other , the upbringing of every child causes an unconscious attitude which is affirmed again and again . The attitude of male superiority and female inferiority. That causes all the major and minor problems happening today. To stop them, we have to change the way we bring up children especially boys.

      I will cite certain examples of how men in this country view women despite worshipping innumerable number of goddesses.

1) This is something I witnessed in a KSRTC bus years ago. The conductor of that bus was a young woman. And that bus was NOT an ordinary bus. A crap man who was apparently retired was travelling in that bus. Seeing that the conductor was a woman, he couldn't tolerate it and demanded the bus be stopped in the stop where ordinary buses stop. When the conductor refused to do so, and stopped only at the stop where a fast could stop, he started abusing her verbally!!!! She was a government employee of half his age and that shamless a*****e started abusing her for doing his duty!!!!

2) This is my own personal experience. A middle aged man who was well dressed in style with a French beard and shirt inserted and with a suitcase, abused me verbally calling me by names when I refused to get down from a bus until it went inside the terminus. It was just outside the terminus and everybody was hurrying to get down. I by my bad luck went to he door and stood there waiting for the bus which was stranded in the traffic just outside the terminus to enter the terminus!!! I was doing the right thing by not getting down midway in traffic risking my life or others, but this well dressed stylish moron couldn't wait till the bus entered the terminus. How dare he abuse a girl in public? He looked like an employee in some bank or college. What service is he doing to the society if he is willing to abuse women/girls in public. At home he will be a torturer. He is a classic example of a male chauvanist pig.

3) Another experience of mine against which I spoke against and did what I should have done. This is too as bus (man what is wrong with our public transport system? Or are men so unhappy at home that they show off only in public places harassing others?). I was travelling in a crowded long distance bus carrying my laptop bag on my back. Provided the safety history and purity of character of people in this country along with the "fine" condition of the road along which the bus was travelling with hight speed, I was afraid to keep my laptop on the rack and decided to stand with it on the back. Now comes the story. I was standing near to a seat where a mother was sitting with 2 children. Since children are citizens too, I didn't ask her to keep one child in her lap and free a space there. 

  Then my parents who were standing too got seats at positions +-2 from my position. They asked me to pass the bag to them. But provided the weight if the bag and provided the fact that handing over such a heavy thing will throw off balance and hurt people and laptop if it fell down by chance I refused to do so. The villain was sitting there somewhere behind where I was standing with his wife /gf. NOW I have to describe the villain of this story. From the moment I had boarded the bus, I had noticed him passing remarks on everything/everybody as if he were the only "perfect" soul in that bus. Then my father got a seat near to him and I went to sit with him. You can imagine the rush and how I managed to go through it. Unfortunately (or fortunately because I got to expose the true character of an MCP) the lock on my bag scratched this MCP's elbow on my way to the seat. I didn't understand anything until I sat down, then I heard a loud cursing from this MCP.

     I apologised him for causing this unknown scratch. But evidently he was no gentleman (not even worthy of being called a  HUman). He couldn't accept the fact that he got scratched by a girl's bag. He started cursing me and verbally abusing me with words like I am disobedient and my blood is hot and all that. He then even threatened that had I been a boy he would have beaten me up and taken  me to the police station!!! He didn't even listen to my father's or mother's apologies. He didn't even listen to the people who were telling him to keep quite and stop misbehaving in the bus. He went on cursing until a very irritated man shouted at him.

Well so good so forth. But look at his attitude. He dares to threaten a person/persons inside a public bus/in a public place to beat them up! Who ought to be taken to the police station? And what did he think when he called me disobedient? This clearly shows that he wants all women to be slaves to the rotten MCP ego and should not be smart or independent. I thought about this a lot after that. It was not his scratch which prompted him to abuse me. It was the fact that a smart girl (please excuse me for calling myself smart) was standing confidently in a bus where as he was full of his complexes and inferiorities and insufficiencies. I don't think that having a hot blood hurts a woman. Does it? Actually women ought to have some hot blood to stop the attitudes of the MCPs towards them.

     After all this, a middle aged man (about 55 or so) who was sitting beside my father started "advising" me that it was my disobedience to my parents that had cause all the problems!!! He was saying it as if he was doing some good to me. I told him the reason why I hadn't given the bag to anyone and what it could have caused had it fallen on someone's head in the process of being transported. Then he had to touvh my bag!! He literally touched it in awe since it contained the laptop!!!!!!  Now isn't my reason for carrying it valid??? At the terminus this MCP villain got down silently with his wife/GF and went away. Now I've to tell something about this MCP. He was wearing a brown beaded bracelet and a square glass and was really fat (see how this country's resources are being wasted on useless people like htis MCP) and pretended to be a know it all!!!!
But he was a know it all only in his appearance. Pathetically he was not trained well by his FATHER how to behave to women or people. I am sure that he does domestic violence at home to his wife (if she was his wife). Anyway I  earnestly wanted that woman to divorce him as soon as possible. Hmmmmm.....


Everybody told me to keep quite about this. The sad thing is that, the conductor of the bus (who is supposed to take care of the situations in a bus), stood silently. Had he told something sternly,  to this MCP or made him to leave the bus as soon as he started public nuisance, no passenger would have been irritated. It was a minor incident. But worth reporting since that man had dared to misbehave to women and general public in a public place like a state transport corporation's bus. I filed a complaint to the corporation about this though I didn't get any response. I don't feel bad. Atleast I didn't keep quite after getting abused even if it was verbally.

 Women/girls should understand one thing clearly. Nobody has the right to abuse you. Mentally/verbally/physically. Nobody has the right to comment on your bodies be it slim or fat, even if it is your own parents (unless you are severely above or below your BMI and it is for health reasons that they are commenting). Nobody owns your body. You are its owner. You have your own nervous system, circulatory system, respiratory, digestive, excretory and reproductive system. In school we study that there are 9 main organ systems. Reproductive system is only of them. Not even the main. Nothing will happen if that system of yours is not working. But if the other 8 don't work you won't live.

So you must resist all the attempts to label you as a mere reproductive machine or object of pleasure or abuse by your will power and stand up for  YOURSELF. It is always a pride to stand up for yourself. It is a shame if you or the people around you think/try to impose the attitude that a girl/woman has to be protected by a male, it is a shame. Because the best person who can protect and help you at all times (even when you are alone) is you yourself. Learn to grow independent with some HOT BLOOD. Otherwise you will be slaves for ever.


   


    

x-( Part - 2

The assaults on women is not just a problem in that sense. It all reflects how all over the world, in each community, women are viewed. Whatever names be attributed to women, be it a "Lady", "Madam", "Miss" or anything else, one must rethink if it everybody who uses it uses it with real respect to women. One classical example is the state of affairs in our own country. Goddesses are worshipped in every nook and corner, but girls are being brutally abused in all those nooks and corners. Why is this so? So, basically, whatever is taught, it is an attitude of slavery. The one who has powers will abuse/exploit others, be it humans or animals, as they please.
 
      The attitude of the rapists which cause all these social harm through their bodies and minds is of an evil master who exploits the o0nes whom he thinks ought to serve him or on whom he can implement anything which he wishes. How have affairs come to such a state? It all starts from the beginning of the lives of these despicable burdens to the earth. Over centuries, over the whole world, somehow males have been given more freedom and rights and whatever they like unnecessarily. And they have made themselves as the "guardians" or "keepers" of rules and regulations be it good or bad. The problem again is in the upbringing.
  
        ONE dialogue I hate is the following : "Women/girls should obey men." How despicable is this dialogue! If any indecent male rascal tells you girls to obey him, you are supposed to obey him. Especially in a married life. Well, married life in one sense is the most horrible thing that anybody can impose on a girl. If you don't get married within a prescribed age, you are deemed as a freak. If you get married according to social norms, your life is ruined.

      Everyone tells something is going wrong in the society. Yes something is really wrong. The patriarchal system is the biggest evil of this society. The false pride and false sense of freedom given copiously to boys make them grow into men who think that they can do any despicable thing. Just because man thinks that he ha got what he has got, he can't insult women who are solely responsible for the continuation of any race. The main problem is the uncontrolled spread of information overloading with the development of technology in unprecedented ways unimagined previously by humans. Just because you have an unlimited internet connection and any device which you can hold in hand and view privately and hear privately you don't have to misuse it they way you are misusing it now.

      I am coming to the issue of the excess of sexual content in the internet. Not so long in future, internet will cease to be a good thing and become completely a source of all kinds of formidable and grotesque sexual contents. And the advent of digital devices, people can make any kind of video they want and put it on the web. If not for the despicable pornographic sites where do people get the ideas of grotesque behaviours in private and public? If not for the excessive sexual content which spreads unhindered on the internet, where do people get so much of ideas as to how to "use" a person despite their gender and age?

      When the privacy of personalised digital devices combine with the already rotten patriarchal male dominated society, it leads to assaults , brutal and fatal on women. People start viewing women as "vaginas" or all sorts of holes rather than somebody with vital organs such as brain, heart, intestines or lungs. x-(
And people who get all sorts of evil and diseased ideas of sexual abnormalities search for victims on whom they can implement these. x-( Everybody is demanding serious laws to punish the rapists severely. We should demand that rapists not be born. We need stringent laws to prevent the widespread of the psychological carcinogen of pornography and evil mindedness of abnormal sexual behaviour in the society via means of any print/audio-visual/digital media.

     Will there ever be such a law. I'll give a simple classic example of how people use these sites to demean women. I once heard the story of a girl whose wedding was called off just because her picture appeared on a porn site. The allegation was that somebody tipped off the groom who checked the site and saw her picture!!! And the girl's family and the whole society blamed her for a crime she didn't even know anything about. My question is this. Why didn't anybody blame that guy who went and checked the porn website? If he was so pure he would never have checked that website. So whose fault is it? The girl's fault whose photo was misused or the guy's fault who was willing enough to browse a porn site? Where was his chastity when he was willing to indulge in browsing such a site on being tipped off by some crap fellow who might have had some bad intentions? Where is the ban on porn sites?

          The way everyday we hear news of women/children being assaulted not only by men of certain age, it can only be the after effect of the unlimited access to digital technology which is being misused. Right. The decision to use or misuse something has to be taken voluntarily. But if something is always being misused somebody should initiate a correction.

   This is the extreme case of  sexual abnormalities. But even in our daily lives in our own visual media , women are being depicted as "goods" and not as intelligent persons or even persons. A woman is not two gaussians + hyperbola + a toroid. But the way they are being shown in ads and films or wherever possible , women are supposed to be "sexy". How often do you not see a bikini clad (exposed) girl in ads? For the ad of men's perfume girls who appear to be seduced by the smell are a must. For people who can take these ads in the sporty spirit, it is fine. But for people who can't take it in sporty or funny spirit, but as a means of viewing human body freely what excuse will you give? Children who are allowed free access to programs of the like grow up seeing too much of female body and learn the cliched ideas of how females have to be oppressed. If the boys are not brought up to respect fellow humans/animals there won't be any wonder if your son starts browsing porn sites and eating pan masala and indulging in gang activities and crimes.

    People must learn to use digital media in good sense or must be brought to the right path if they are not using it. We can't avoid computers in our everysecond life, but we must also learn to use it in good sense. And we cannot turn our faces to the fact that there are bad things on the internet which people are accessing freely. Because you refrain from it doesn't mean that others will too. If we don't mind it, people who believe all the crap on it will take it out on the streets/buses/houses or wherever possible and kill this planet. It is high time people started getting inspired by good things rather than gangster behaviour or villainous characters. Something drastic has to be done.

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To be continued...................................